The 3X Confidence & Authenticity Masterclass

Part 1 of our discussion about the first main phase of The 3X Model: Explore.

What is Exploration? It is the phase of the 3X Model where we choose to live by the value of Curiosity. In this class we look at what this means and it's practical application – how to find the truth amongst the noise that is life.

You'll learn how to use the core value of Curiosity to rid yourself of assumptions, expectations and other unhelpful mental barriers. You'll also learn a powerful methodology for observing reality and using this to make effective plans.

We'll also look at the enemies of Curiosity, like assumptions, impatience and the needy desire to win. Removing these barriers to confidence is crucial, particularly if you're enthusiastic about living in a truthful way. We must remove the lies before we can discover what the truth might be.

This lesson will help you with the problems that come from too much time spent in this phase as well, like people who don't take action because of over-thinking and worrying about what others think.

Part 2 of the Explore Phase.

Part 1 of our discussion into the Engage Phase of The 3X Model.
What is Engaging all about? It is the part of The 3X Model where we live by the Value of Honesty. In this session we have a look at what it means to Engage in Honest actions, and we'll focus on the practical application; how to take courageous and genuine actions aligned with your values.

Taking action is how we learn, through testing and experimentation. You cannot have changes, progress or external results without action, and for those actions to suit who YOU are they must be HONEST actions. By this we mean actions based on what is true about you, and what is most helpful for you in the long run (living by your values).

Life is an interaction with the world; neglecting this interaction is harmful and leads to an unhelpfully self-centred focus. So you can choose to engage regularly rather than allowing yourself to become a helpless spectator. Taking action, uncomfortable action in particular, allows you to build resilience. The more you experience, the tougher you become psychologically, leading to the truly confident mindset of “I can handle anything”.

This lesson is about being able to believe this one day because you'll have proven it to yourself through honest actions.

Part 2 of our discussion about the Engage Phase.

Part 3 of our discussion about the Engage Phase.

Part 1 of our discussion on the final part of The 3X Model; the Release Phase. In this often-neglected phase we learn how to heal, measure and create space to allow information to come to us. This is the pause between action and planning, where we allow the Universe to give us feedback while we rest.

What is Releasing? It's about giving yourself and the world a chance to participate fully, through living by the Value of Respect. In this session we'll talk about this often-neglected phase of The 3X Model, the phase which allows you to heal, measure, reflect, listen, and clear your mind for the next step. For the practical application we'll cover how to reflect, learn, and free yourself from attachment to outcomes (e.g. caring what others think of you).

When you pause to create space, your mind will start purging all expired information. This allows reality to give you new information, which will help you be as prepared as you can be to deal with any situation. This new information often comes in the form of feedback; a kind of measurement about how well you are doing from a more objective perspective.

We'll look at why rest and recuperation are vital to health and focus, and how allowing yourself time for this to happen is a form of self-respect. Releasing proves to yourself that you are worthy by your own standards. It is also crucially helpful to making progress. Releasing allows mistakes and unhelpful patterns to be recognised early, so that you can intervene before they become insurmountable. It also allows others to contribute to your life through participation and feedback.

Most importantly, releasing encourages the short-term pain to occur (e.g. realizations), which reduces the likelihood of long-term suffering (e.g. regret). Learning to live this way is the focus of this lesson.

Part 2 of our discussion on the Release Phase.

Part 1 of an exploration into what it means to live by your Core Values. Confidence and authenticity all boils down to your ability to live by your values, it's as simple as that. In this session we look at how to figure out what your core values are, and what it means to live by them in the real world. Once you figure this out, you'll be set for life and no-one will be able to mess with your confidence ever again!

Together we'll look at how you are born with a basic sense of your values, deep down. These are then distorted and covered with lies and fear as you grow up, based on your misunderstandings and the beliefs others impose on you.

Living by your core values is the secret to waking up each day feeling awesome. If you can live by your values you will find your self-worth increase every single day.

Not living by your values sends a message internally that you are not good enough. Choosing to step away from your values is like avoiding whatever it is that makes you YOU, making it somehow bad and wrong. It's time to stop sending yourself this message.

It is an action-evidenced motive, pointing you towards how to live the RIGHT way (for you). Values are not goals. They can never be completed like a goal, and do not require anyone or anything but you. You can live by values in prison or as a slave, alone or in a crowd. Values are not determined by your thoughts or emotions. You do not need to be thinking the “right” thoughts or feel like you're in the “right” mood. You just need to ACT RIGHT.

In this lesson you'll learn the core competency of confidence: the art of living by your values, which is most commonly known as INTEGRITY.

Part 2 of our session on Core Values.

In this session we attack the biggest barrier between You and Confidence: Shame. Shame is the sensation of there being something "wrong" with you. In this session we will look at what shame is, where it comes from, and how to become shameless. Once you get to a stage where you have no shame, you will become limitless.

Shame is your only true barrier to confidence. A completely shameless state, mythical as it may be, would be devoid of self-loathing and uncertainty. Shamelessness is about not just accepting reality but OWNING it; unapologetically being the person you are, without deception, minimisation or any other form of dishonesty.

Without shame people will have nothing to use against you. Shame is a vampire, it evaporates when exposed to sunlight, so the key is about removing it piece by piece by exposing it to the world. There are three forms of shamelessness, with each one being more powerful than the previous, and we'll explore all of these together in this lesson.

Part 1 of a discussion about the concept of Limiting Beliefs. Most self-development enthusiasts have a basic understanding that their only barriers exist inside their heads. In this session we look at how beliefs can hold you back from what you truly want, and how such unhelpful beliefs are formed. We will look at the concept of breaking rules - undoing the damage of these beliefs by proving them wrong and opening up new possibilities. Or, another way to put it; learning how to overcome fear!

What is fear? Ultimately the discomfort we are talking about is most commonly described as Fear. Sensations based on a “Fight or Flight” response are designed, it would seem, to protect us; to arm us in times of need when our lives are in danger. However, these sensations are not always called for and occur to us whenever we feel even remotely threatened. So the question becomes: is all fear helpful all the time?

In this lesson we'll look at how fear is not an uncontrollable demand. You do not have to obey the impulse to flee or battle. We become so used to moving away from fear that we don't stop to ask ourselves if we have to. All of the fight or flight sensations you experience during fear do not prevent you from taking action, they simply make you feel uncomfortable.

Once you understand that you do not need to let this feeling own your decision-making, a whole world of possibility opens up.

Part 2 of our discussion into Limiting Beliefs.

In this session we look at a mysterious concept known as Psychological Flexibility. Described by Dr Russ Harris as "holding your beliefs lightly", Psychological Flexibility is about becoming adaptable to reality so that you're never left behind. Imagine being able to bounce back from all upsets and let-downs without being harmed!

Psychological flexibility is essentially about letting go of right vs wrong, and instead embracing the concept of helpful vs unhelpful. In this session we have a look at how expectations reduce happiness, and use the process of 'defusion' to check in with reality.

Those who adapt survive, those who don't… well, they don't. We are ALWAYS incorrect; we search for the truth but never find it because there is always a deeper level of truth. It's those who keep searching that survive. When you stop looking because you think you've found the final answer, you are already being left behind.

In this lesson we'll talk about how we can manage expectations so that we can learn to control our satisfaction with life (what people often refer to as 'happiness'). When we start to think that something “should” or “should not” happen, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. This is because nothing is ever guaranteed, the Universe is simply too random. We let go of pointless expectations by looking for what is real right now.

Most importantly, we'll look at the art of defusion. By making contact with reality, through zooming away from our thoughts and feelings until we can observe them in a detached way, we relieve ourselves of the suffering caused by the non-stop chatter of our minds.